friendship isn't about who you've known the longest,
it's who came & never left
The ones who drop text messages now & again to remind you that you are not forgotten.
The ones who are up at 3am because you had a shitty day need to talk to someone.
The ones who deal with your flaws no matter what because you have feelings too.
The ones who notice everything you do & say that makes you who you are.
The ones who makes you feel like you own the day on your birthday.
The ones who notice that you are unusually quiet during an outing.
The ones who never bring up the favours they have done for you.
The ones who appreciate & respect you as a person and a friend.
These actually sound like extracted parts of a best friend's to-do list. Best friends are there to make you feel loved while friends are there to make you feel- there. Two very different things; best friends make you feel special and important. A friend is supposed to make you feel as equal as any other to any average person. To put that thought into your mind, you would realize that you would not die without both but you should realize that your happiness feeds on the two groups of people.
Feeling equal creates the mental reality that you are as able as everyone else around you while given the sense of being important produces desire and determination.
Taking a piece of my life to fit into this concept, I personally feel that I am more than allowed to be happy and emotional because there will be people to realize that I am there. Being a big part of someone's life makes me carry on with every day no matter how heavy or meaningless, putting effort into the little things.
Looking back on the trailing words, they do seem pretty silly to make any sense. BUT everything that we do today links back to our own humanity and society and their expectations. To put it out plainly, (despite most egoistic's views) psychology defines us and our actions; judgments, expectations, predictions and assumptions.
Our friends are there to support us and build up our confidence to be a pint better than the lonelier us. If they couldn't be bother with our feelings and the outcomes of their ignorant actions then perhaps theres no reason to hold the title of 'a friend' in triumph.
